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Mindfulness is "the awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally to the unfolding of expereince moment to moment." - Kabat-Zinn
The sun is always shining behind the clouds. The clouds cover the sun, but the sun is still there. "Meditation pokes holes in the clouds so that you can again and again realize that the sun is always there." - Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

"ONLY THAT DAY DAWNS TO WHICH WE ARE AWAKE."
-Henry David Thoreau
"We pay attention with respect and interest, not in order to manipulate, but to understand what is true. And seeing what is true, the heart becomes free." -Shunryu Suzuki
I had my brain changed on Thursday night. Or, at least that was what Dr. Daniel J. Siegel told an audience of psychotherapists as he led us in a series of mental exercises during a lecture at U.C.L.A. Dr. Siegel, a Harvard –trained physician , clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine, and co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center is a pioneer in the field of mental health. He has scientifically proven that by following proper steps, people can learn how to focus their attention on the internal world of the mind in a way that will actually change the wiring and architecture of their brain. He informed us that SNAGing the brain (stimulating neuronal activation and growth) strengthens neural connections and stimulates new patterns of neural firing to create new synaptic linkage.
According to Dr. Sara W. Lazar, a Harvard neuroscientist, “Neuronal plasticity, the ability of neurons in the brain to change in response to experience, has been one of the most exciting discoveries in neuroscience. For a long time it was assumed that only the young brain can undergo such structural changes. However, recent findings have shown that the adult brain can also grow, reorganize and form new connections between neurons. Thus, the research on neuroplasticity points to the brain as a growing organ that responds structurally not only to the demands of the external environment, but also to internally generated states, including aspects of consciousness. “ . Why is this information so relevant? Because now it can be proven scientifically that you can be proactive in changing the way you feel through practicing good brain health. If you have irrational fears, memories that torment you, get unreasonably angry and have difficulty calming down, feel stuck in repetitive negative patterns and can’t stop behaving the way you feel no matter how hard you try, SNAGing could be of interest to you.
As a psychotherapist, I am always on the lookout for information pertinent to helping individuals lead happy, productive lives. Part of the work done in therapy is to cultivate the ability to know and control emotions, understand and heal relationships and ultimately reach one’s fullest potential. The work done in therapy has a similar path; taking the time to learn and understand yourself in order to achieve your fullest potential. This involves trying to understand how your early life experiences have made you the unique person you are today. When you work at gaining self-understanding you shed a light on those hidden obstacles that you keep bumping into. Knowing yourself frees you from familiar unhealthy patterns and allows you to make wise healthy choices. There is a wonderful poem by Portia Nelson titled, “Autobiography in Five Chapters,” which illustrates the process beautifully:
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the
sidewalk.
I fall in. I am lost… I am
hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way
out. I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place,
but it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. . . it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
I walk down another street.
In order to avoid falling into another hole in the sidewalk, here are some tips to promote brain health and build mental muscle:
Mindfulness can help patients to become more active and effective partners in their own treatment. I teach people how to meditate in a very basic way that nourishes mindfulness or friendly nonjudging awareness. They learn to have a calm attention and relaxed body. It's simply about being present in a calm and relaxed way and opening to what is here in us and in our life. 
TOOLS TO DEAL WITH STRESS & ANXIETY
Learn to Meditate
A wonderful way to address anxiety, panic attacks and stress is by learning and practicing mindful meditation.
Learn about the physiological changes that take place in the brain during meditation.
Jon Kabat Zinn "Coming To Our Senses." Video explaining the benefits of mindful meditation.
This is a wonderful meditation with Thich Nhat Hahn. Try it in the morning before you start your day: The great Bell Chant Meditation
Guided meditations from Mindful Valley
Tara Brach's free guide to meditation
Video with Goldie Hawn and Dr. Siegel on benefits of mindfulness for children and adults.
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"Peace Is Every Step"

Video of Pema Chodron on dealing with disappointment.
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